Love is both a feeling and an action.
Many people describe love as a feeling of warmth in their heart, chest, or stomach.
We often feel a sense of affection for the object of our love. We reach out to touch, caress, hug, hold, pat, kiss, and otherwise be near this person or pet. Healthy attachment is regulating to our nervous system.
Those warm feelings feel like safety and yumminess.
We need, and can have, many different forms of love in our lives.
Love for a partner.
Love for a child.
Love for a friend.
Love for a sister/brother/parent/cousin/grandparent/etc.
Love for a pet.
Love for a person or people we serve.
Love for someone we’ve lost.
Love for someone we’ve found.
Love for time we share with someone who shares an interest.
Love for our colleagues.
Love for a hobby or passion.
Love for a time that once was.
Love for the hope of what will be.
Love for who we were.
Love for who we are.
Love for whom we may become.
Many of us learned we were unlovable.
Many of us decided then to un-love ourselves first before we could be taken by surprise by those who would reject us. This un-love, this fear, this strategy became True and we were divided.
When seeking to return to love of ourselves, acceptance feels frightening and we rebel against it.
Start by accepting THAT you don’t accept. Accept fear. Accept pain. Accept sinking doubt, searing shame, the desperate desire to hide. Accept that you don’t know how to accept.
Ah, yes. This is what’s here right now.
You may find that with this little drizzle of acceptance for non-acceptance, there is a little softening and a little relief and the tiniest possibility of acceptance of more of who you are.
Love, acceptance and pleasure for someone for who they are right now, is the rain, sun, and soil in which each of us blossoms.
May you reach and stretch for a little of your own sunlight.
May you drink from the well of your own affection.
May you eat from the table of your own acceptance.
May you feel yourself blossom right where you are, no matter how imperfect the conditions.
With Love and Yumminess,